A Pen, A Catalyst of Change & Glamour

The Christian faith records that the earth and its occupants were created by the spoken word. In human relations, agreements recorded by words are binding on the makers of such agreements. The government regulates human relations using words set out in statutes and other regulatory documents. A soft word has been known to turn away anger while a rash word has been known to aggravate anger. Famed public speakers and renowned writers are so famed for their words. Need one say more then, that words can be used as a catalyst of change and glamour, it all depends on the arrangement and use of the words. A pen which is the traditional means of writing, can therefore be said to be a catalyst of change or glamour. So also are the more modern means like phones, tablets, laptops and what have you?

Of course, even good things can be misused, thus words if not appropriately put together, can shut doors firmly rather than throwing them wide open.

Appropriate words, create the right imagery in one’s mind and make one literally touch the items being referred to in the words. No wonder, the world could be created with words…

Cheers to making your pen your catalyst of change, glamour and other things to be held dear as I strive to do daily.

In another news, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY BELOVED SISTER, ADEDOLAPO ADEJUGBE!!! You know I got you ‘gurl’ *bear hug*

Warm regards,

Adefolake

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Choices

Choices are decisions we take.

Whether consciously or subconsciously, we make choices every moment of our lives.

Indeed, choosing to do nothing about a situation is in itself a choice.

Consequences whether good or bad, are a fall out of the choices we make which we often have to live with.

Therefore,

We should be guided when making our choices…

Because,

Choices, we make them, then they make us.

Cheers,

Adefolake

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Soldier Go, Soldier Come…

There’s a saying that goes: ‘one man’s loss is another man’s gain.’ This saying is similarly (sometimes satirically) captured with phrases like: one man’s meat is another man’s poison; one man’s trash is another man’s treasure or as a common lingua in my clime goes, ‘soldier go, soldier come but barrack must to remain.’

The phrases above, capture the essence of the thoughts that opportunities lurk in every corner and our abilities to actualise these opportunities depends on our mindsets. In a work scenario for instance, while an employer may bemoan the unexpected resignation of a valued employee, the void created by that loss as it were, provides ample room for growth of other employees and depending on how such remaining employees play their cards, may make them become more valuable and potentially surpass in value-add, the employee who has moved on. The same principle rings true in different spheres of life and I can personally relate in more than one instance.

When such opportunities are presented, one can either take the stance of seeing the same glass as half empty or half full. At the end of the day, our perspectives on life issues we experience, determine whether we make the best (or worst) of them.

One fact of life however, is that soldier go, soldier come, barrack must to remain. The barrack had therefore best equip itself to prepare the remaining soldiers (and those who will join), to succeed at wars.

Warm regards,

Adefolake

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Rise Above Your Fears!

These notes are as much a charge to me, as to anyone who is struggling to rise above his/her fears. I mean, I’m all for the mantra that ‘you don’t get what you don’t ask for,’ but hey let’s face it, the asking isn’t always easy abi? But again, me rationalising with myself, I ask, ‘what do you have to lose by asking?’ Worst case, you get a ‘No!’  which does not leave you in a worse position than you were before asking; and think of it, there’s a 50% chance that you will get a ‘Yes:)’ and if that happens, you definitely get to be in a better position than you were before asking. So doing the maths, risk analysis or similar, you’re probably better off asking.

But…one may whisper, ‘I stand a chance of being looked down upon for asking,’ aka I stand a chance of losing ‘rep.’ After all, you reason, ‘it is better to keep quiet and be thought stupid than to open one’s mouth and leave none in doubt as to one’s stupidity.’ Deep huh! But hey, wait a min,’ what could possibly make you worried about ‘losing face?’ Could this be traced to a twinge of pride perhaps? But what do I know right?

Anyways, one way I approach such situations, fears, uncertainties, potential losing of ‘rep’ and the likes, is to put on my ‘strategy’ (not manipulative…*side eye*) cap to present my case in such a manner that even if I do get a ‘No!’ my ‘rep’ doesn’t also get battered. After all, a word fitly spoken, is like apples of gold in pictures of silver. Nice imagery right? It’s called wisdom if you like, and in any sphere or walk of life, wisdom is the principal thing.

So, while I prepare to make the ‘fearful’ request that spurred me to write this, I do hope I have been able to make you or yours (as applicable), to keep calm and rise above fears.

Cheers to being fearless (without being tactless),
Adefolake

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Beautiful in its Time

Recently, I have been getting practical insights into the Biblical injunction that “all things work together for good…” and I must say that it has been a pleasant experience even though it did not seem that way during the “work out” process…

Like when I had an academic presentation postponed on the presentation eve after expending time and finances to put things in place. However, unbeknownst to me, all those who had a go at their presentations during that period received a “No!” verdict, due to circumstances not fully within their control in some instances. When I eventually made my presentation and had a breezy , “Yes,” I then understood why things had not worked out according to plan initially…

The other time, I had applied for placement in an organisation and could not progress as I had hoped, due to my tenuous computation skills at the time. This propelled me to take courses to improve those skills and a few years down the line, I got an easy walk into the same organisation to add value, without having to take any exams.

Very recently, I had to re-take a particular exam which in itself was a painful experience borne out of my carelessness. It was even more painful when the result came out and my name was not on the pass list. Yikes! I thought, a record two-time failure. I really could not fathom how I could deal. It then turned out that there had been some oversight which caused the omission of my name. I in fact passed the exam very well. Sigh of relief. Shortly after this time, my script for the same exam that showed potentials of causing me grief like never before, was selected and published as a standard for future exam candidates.

In all these, the lesson for me has been that “He has made everything beautiful in its time – Eccle 3:11 (NIV).”

Cheers to experiencing beauty in all our endeavours.

Warm regards,

Adefolake

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Be YOUnique – Power of a Personal Brand

“Let me tell you why you are here. You’re here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavours of this earth. If you lose your saltiness, how will people taste godliness? You’ve lost your usefulness and will end up in the garbage.” – Mt. 5:13 (MSG)

Riding on the introductory italicised preface above, the salt is characterised as  flavouring. A flavour improves the taste of something, as we would have noted from our addition of salt to food. The salt is also a preserver as some of us may have observed in our younger days when our mothers/grand-mothers used salt to preserve fish. We may have also observed that salt is a white and powdery substance like sugar. What then distinguishes salt from sugar you may wonder? This distinguishing factor, is the essence of personal branding.

Personal branding simply described, is that uniqueness that separates one and makes one preferable to the other person. It is personal branding that makes the curriculum vitae (CV) of certain persons preferable to the CV of others. It is also this same personal branding that makes a particular interviewee get a particular job and not another interviewee; or a particular artist preferred above contemporaries. It is yet again personal branding that makes one business idea stand out from another supposedly similar business idea.

The bottom-line is that for anyone to succeed in life, the importance of personal branding should not be neglected. Placed in context with the current tide of economic events in Nigeria where the competition has gotten stiffer, one would agree that without personal branding, one can hardly be a success.

One may wonder how he/she can be a personal brand stating, “but I am just an individual not one of those big, respected companies.” In response to this, one would remind that the journey of a thousand miles begins with the right step. Those big, respected companies did not suddenly appear on the scene, they grew through concerted efforts and exhibiting the right values.

Thus, for today’s professional/entrepreneur to grow and improve his/her personal brand, there is a need to reflect on whether the values he/she holds dear are the right values. If you were to ask five persons within your immediate vicinity, for the first word that comes to their minds when they think of you, their individual responses would give an indication as to whether a positive personal brand is being built, or there is a need to re-evaluate values. Today’s professional/entrepreneur should bear in mind that the big, respected companies or even respected individuals with positive personal brands would not have amounted to much by being tardy, sloppy or lazy.

In closing, today’s professional/entrepreneur should make concerted efforts through deliberate actions, to re-write his/her story to reflect the positive personal brand he/she craves for so that like the salt, he/she would remain a flavouring (and preserver) because ultimately, today’s professional/entrepreneur, ought to be an epistle known and read of all men (II Cor 3:2).

Hugs,

Adefolake

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Full Circle

As I pen down these short thoughts on this day, 31st December 2017, I realise that I have come full circle in many respects. I can count moments of successes and failures which have birthed more successes; optimism, despair and a re-birth of optimism; motivation; helplessness and renewed motivation; discovering self, losing self and re-discovering self; plenty, lack like never before and a replenishing; I have felt stretched to my limits in some instances and in some other instances felt like I still had room to expand.

For me, for everything that tried to beat me down, I have managed to come up stronger purely by the mercies of my Maker.

For the birth of my new dawn, for family, for friends, for true love, I am grateful.

And need I say more? But to look forward with eager anticipation to the birth of 2018 and the blessings it has in store for me and mine…

Happy new year in a bit.

Hugs,

Adefolake

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